As a friend, the Confidant (INFJ) is deep, empathetic and refreshingly genuine. Here's what the Confidant is like to be close to, how they show they care, and how to be a better friend to one.
As friends, Confidants are the keepers of secrets and the givers of advice that actually changes your life. They invest deeply in a few people and remember the things that matter to you.
They need friends who reciprocate. A one-sided friendship, where they're always the listener, slowly exhausts them.
What the Confidant brings
- Reads and understands you deeply
- Devoted and emotionally present
- Brings warmth and meaning
- Genuinely wants you to grow
Where the Confidant can grow
- Can absorb others' feelings and burn out
- Holds people to high ideals
- Withdraws instead of voicing hurt (the 'door slam')
How to connect with a Confidant in friendship
- Friendship with a Confidant deepens through shared time, not constant contact.
- What they need most: emotional depth and authenticity.
- Gently watch for their tendency to can absorb others' feelings and burn out.
- Speak their love language: the Confidant leans toward Quality Time & Words of Affirmation.